Thank you again, Mamma Posse!
Back in August, when my son was clean and just after his accident, my husband suggested we throw a big party for him. We'd wanted to schedule it for the 13th, the day before his birthday, but due to conflicts it's this Saturday.
It was a lovely gesture. My husband has been proud of my son's sobriety, and the way he handled a major physical trauma.
Son has relapsed, but the show will go on. My husband doesn't know about the relapse, and it's too late to cancel the party. Also, husband doesn't know about son's relapse. I chose not to tell him because there is no understand or support to be had from him. He just can't. That's the reality. I go to my sponsor and my own support group. Son has plenty of people to go to for support himself.
With God's help, I will move on from this. Back in Step One. It's okay. I am exactly where I should be, and am willing to do the work. Al-Anon should help.