I think this would need one of those Venn diagrams. These may be things that some Abusers do, but doing these things does not mean you are an Abuser, so I dont get it.
A lot of them are just signs of irresponsible bahavior, lack of interest, or poor time management skills.
But if Im wrong, then Im definetly an abuser and my poor husband.... I am always making him wait, and making us late. And hmmm.. I do have trouble listening to the long detailed work related things he goes off on sometimes.... I may shift my eyes, sigh....