Allforcnm my experience was similar. I was responsible for the choice I made inregards to the addict in my life. SMART taught me how to move away from feeling it was her fault and realizing what I could do to change my twisted sense of values.
For my safety I fled home one day, and ended up in a homeless shelter. I would do it again in a heartbeat. I am now sharing a home with two other sober women and am more content in this first week than I was in the last ten years of my life.
I attribute this 90% to my SMART tools.