JT replied this to a post of mine when I questioned if I was asking too much about of my AH.
I don't think it is too much to ask at all. Let me ask you...do YOU do the things you are asking of him? You took on part of his debt..you are a mother to your children and I am sure you have plenty of responsibilties that you meet each and every day. Why should you accept less of him than you expect of yourself??
Those words hit home with me!
However, Jessica, I have to agree with what Ann said - What are you getting out of this relationship?
And I'd also like to add: What efforts has he truly made to "connect" with you? If he doesn't really talk to you, share his thoughts, give you comfort, be there for you when you need him to be, etc. Is this the relationship you want? Is this what you feel you are worth?