Originally Posted by
Florence 
I would avoid advice to go together. Going to therapy with an active alcoholic is sometimes emotionally explosive, but usually totally useless.
I'm sorry you're dealing with this. I'm glad to hear you're in therapy to alleviate the childhood traumas (me too!). It helps.
I agree with this. The time to go is when you both are in recovery.
The bonus is, maybe he will get jealous that you are getting help for your problems and go. That's what happened to my ABF anyway, he is in rehab, and he called and told me that he should have listened to me years ago about going to therapy.
Duh. That's why they call it CO-OCCURRING disorders.