There is NO way that an active alcoholic can avoid ever being abusive in any ways. The combination of intoxication, lowered inhibition, active addiction, mood swings, physical impairment, and other altered emotional states will lead to NEGATIVE behavior at SOME POINT.
Anyone stating the contrary is lying to themselves, or cannot see what they have done to others.
I always thought that I was a happy drunk, and for the most part I was.
Being sober, I recall this time, and that time, and think about how some incident might have been perceived by sober folks, and it honestly makes me cringe.
If you are honestly an alcoholic, you have inevitably passed out, blacked out, said something you regret, did something you wouldn't do sober, gotten into fights (verbal or otherwise) Gotten depressed or suicidal, gotten overly silly and giddy, etc.
Any of these things can be disturbing to those around you and 100X MORE in regards to children.