Originally Posted by
MsPINKAcres 
you are not pathetic ~
I use to pray that my exah would hit me to it would really be abuse so I could leave ~ today I know the things I endured were ABUSE ~ mental & emotional abuse!
And even if I didn't have those - I still had the right to leave, because I was so unhappy, so discounted as a person, and not safe in my own home.
Follow what your HP and your recovery program leads you to do ~
PINK HUGS,
Rita
Yes exactly - and to follow up. In hindsight if my ex would have hit me or cheated on me - I'm really not sure if that would have released me either. It wasn't about what he was doing, it was about giving myself permission.
I was already living with a ton of things I, at one time, said I'd never live with. Would cheating or hitting have been any different? I don't know and I'm glad I didn't have to find out.