I am right there.....I know things should be ove rbut I feel sorry for him ! I just had a 40 min conversation with my brother about him telling me that I don't need this and it is just dragging me down....which I totally agree with ......but for some odd reason I keep thinking..."well maybe if things were....." (you all know what I mean) but I know they won't change unless I chenge them ...and I don't agree with some of the things my children are around.....and it is not horribl ebut they don't need to see him when he is drunk .........thanks for letting me vent and I hear you totally Jessica....take care~