when I do, I will talk to him
like a human being and not dragon with fire spewing out of my mouth
That is NOT good for me!!! (Lesson Learned)
Boy do I ever know what you are talking about here.
When I took Anger Management because of my own spewing and rage (I'm shaking my head just thinking about how I have acted many times in the past), the one thing that really helped was realizing that there is a huge expectation behind the anger. I have had to learn to accept that people are often not going to meet my expectations and start to get accustomed to that.
Also, please take extra good care of yourself after all that mess yesterday. Do something nice for yourself.