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Old 10-10-2012, 11:43 AM
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MsPINKAcres
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Did you & your BF have a clear cut boundary/agreement discussed before he came back home?
Maybe a list of what you needed for this relationship to continue?
What are your "deal breakers" what are his?

If not - this may be a good time to verbalize this

Clear communication and firm boundaries are healthy for everyone -
It gives everyone dignity and self-respect
This is what each of us need - if the other can't provide it or isn't willing to go to those lengths then we need not waste the other person's time, energy or emotions.

It's not easy, but it is healthy.

So many times we think it should be understood what someone needs to do, or what they should do or what we want them to do ~ but we never verbalize it. Saying it gives everyone freedom and dignity.

Just my e, s, & h

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