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Then don't. He needs to find his own way through his recovery. You trying to manage and supervise it is probably only going to stress you out and you don't need that.

Prior to my own husband entering rehab, he tried the '90 in 90' and it was a disaster for him - it was too overwhelming, burned him out, and he started only paying lip service to the whole process. Following his stay in rehab, he now goes to meetings 2-3 times a week and gets a lot out of it. Its not up to me, or anyone else, how often he should go.

I'm not sure where the whole '90 in 90' concept came from, but its not a guarantee that someone will stay sober if they do it (nor does it mean someone will relapse if they don't do it). Good luck to you and I hope things work out well. Remember to take care of yourself too!