In many states the family courts provide lots of useful information on the web and also provide free consultations for those who qualify. The bottom line is that the courts much prefer people to resolve issues on their own, and/or with the help of a mediator. If you can reach agreement amicably on how to divvy up assets, it can then be presented to the court so that it is official and enforceable (that protects both parties). But you should consult an attorney so you know about any wrinkles or nuances in your state and how to best go about the dissolution process in your state. If a couple can split up property amicably, it saves a ton of money. My STBXAW spent over 25 grand on a lawyer in just a couple months, but that's because she doesn't trust anyone and is really irresponsible with money. I spent about two thousand for the entire divorce, which is probably a little low, but in the ballpark for someone who isn't interested in fighting.