It seems to me like the addict is also always the victim.
And the sad part is, everyone really does believe them. YOU are causing the problems, YOU don't want to work it out, YOU want to get divorced.
DENIAL!
I would get so mad when my ABF would lie to make me look bad, and we would argue about it for hours. Now, I still get angry, but his friends and family, they all know the truth. They know what he is really about now. They are starting to see all the BS that I see all the time.
Do what you want. Who cares what he wants? It's YOUR life.