He said he's not buying my new spiritual crap and that I obviously am not working it very hard because I still walk around all angry.
He's focusing on you and the faults he perceives in you because if he can get you to blame yourself, then maybe you won't blame him.
The therapist asked me to commit to 90 days of working with my AH and with him to see where things are at that point.
That is fascinating to me, that any therapist would say that to the spouse of an actively drinking alcoholic. The therapists I've seen who have experience of alcoholism usually put that burden on the alcoholic and say, "I need you to commit to going to 90 meetings in the next 90 days. After that, we will talk."