My son has ALWAYS known that I love him and would do my very best to help him when HE WAS READY to get sober. He's working hard now and we are paying rent at the sober house. He knows that if he relapses (and doesn't get back in the program immediately) that we will cut him off again and he will be living on the streets....which means eventually going back to jail. He knows we are serious as a heart attack about this.