Honestly, I would be shocked if you weren't angry. I went through the exact same manipulation with my XAH during marriage counseling. It turned me into a giant ball of fury. I was so pissed off at how swiftly he turned the tables and suddenly it was all my fault. Holy crap did I want to explode.
But the reality was... He was just being an alcoholic. He was too steeped in denial (and Jim Beam) to see his part.
So I had a choice - I could keep subjecting myself to repeated attempts to get him to see (and agree) with my point of view or I could chose to move towards the life I really wanted.
Don't stuff the anger. Let it out and feel it. Use it to motivate you.