((NixNox))
I know this is not the best situation - that it is painful & heartbreaking for your SD, but what I do see here is an oportunity to teach your SD some wonderful skills that I know I didn't learn as a young teen and it took me many years as an adult in recovery to learn.
One to know there are choices - that she has a choice to visit her Mother or not,
That she has the right to be treated with respect & dignity even as a young teen
and
That she can learn ways to remove herself from unsafe & unhealthy situations.
As a young teen becoming a young woman in this day and time ~ what great skills to have ~ heartbreaking that she has to learn these to protect herself from her mom ~ but the fact that she can learn that she is worthy of respect, dignity & love from you & her Dad I believe can help her with her healing & with her life journey.
Just my thoughts ~
sending out wishes for healing for her & the family
PINK HUGS,
Rita