Originally Posted by
NikNox 
She does love her mum, but she doesn't respect her, which is fair enough.
I can definitely relate to that statement. I ended up losing most respect for both my parents for different reasons but still love them.
I get the feeling that I was a bit more stubborn and independent at that age than your stepdaughter. I was also living in a big city which makes a bit of a difference. I had no trouble telling my mother off and walking away, ending our visit. Didn't have a cell phone back in the 1970s so I would just go to the nearest donut shop or cafe and call from there. Then I'd pull out a book, order a snack and it didn't matter how long it took for a person to pick me up.