Florence, take as much time as you want. I almost made a bad mistake. I filed for divorce, with a lawyer, my wife and I negotiated the settlement, and then I filed.
She pulled her usual passive/aggressive bs, said she would sign, said she needed to talk to a lawyer, still refused to sign, same old, same old.
I just wanted it to be over. I went back and reread the settlement, crunched some numbers and realized if this went through I would regret it. So, I called the lawyer and had him withdraw the application for divorce.
This time around I am going to have patience. I am taking my time to get all my finances in order before even thinking about divorce. I want to make sure I am taking care of myself first. Something that is really hard for me to do.
So, my experience is that don't file until you are ready, until you are willing to do the leg work and willing to put your needs first.
Your friend,