i"m not sure if this was in response to my question regarding moving back in with my husband, but whether it was or not, it was very helpful. I see that I am still trying to control. So what I take from it is that I have to restructure my own thought process so that it is about what I do, hence, the following: If my husband drinks again or not, I will still sleep in my own bed rather than the couch, as I have done before when the smell of stale alcohol and raucous snoring ran me out. I get to stay in the house, if the drinking continues, while he gets drunk elsewhere, rather than moving out, as I did three months ago. And I am on my own if there are other women involved, that is, I am aware of how much pain I can take, and betrayal, drunk or sober, goes beyond what I can bear. Or am I just saying the same thing, still trying to control, but couched in different terms?