Hi knash!!! He is feeling depression from losing you. I go through it everyday. I moved to Ca. in June and left my girlfriend of 7 years. I was drunk all the time since I got out here. I miss her so much. however I have been sober for five days. I think your husband does have a problem. he's turned to alchohol to try to ease pain, but all it does is mask it. The pain will get worse as his body will be alienated with guilt associated by his drinking. I am an advid motorcycle racer. and I have raced through canyons at over a hundred miles an hour just because I lost my persona and didn't care what would happen to me . That's just one of the demons that alchohol concurs. I hope this helps you understand. He's feeling hurt and suppressing it with the sauce. Just like I WAS!!!!!!!!!!