Someone on this forum posted something the other day and a light bulb popped off in my head. It was exactly what I needed to read and that's why I come on here! So thank you everyone!
She (Laurie) said something very simple, not exactly this but basically - Give him to his Higher Power. Trust that.
I so believe and am in contact with my own Spirit that I forget to trust his. To give him over to something higher than myself and trust. He's on his own journey - it's individual to him. He is here to learn things differently from what I am here to learn and he will learn them when HE can in whatever way HE can. Not my way.
That message came through like a shot of peace. Give him over to a force greater than we are - and stay connected to our own.
I know that I balked at the idea given to me by those with much more experience in addiction that - relapsing is a part of recovery - for many.
As I said on another post, I hated hearing that. It was true for my husband. And in this journey I've had to learn and relearn and get hit over the head - to let the outcome go. Focus on my own needs and inner work. Learning to let go of other people has been such a gift for me on so many levels. If I can learn it with him, I can learn it with everyone. Not easy and I, too - relapse - at times.
Let go and let God = Peace.