A few felt they had to choose alcohol over spending time with me. Although I would have been friends still, as long as we did things together.outside of hangin at bars, unfortunately they can't do that.
But I know the chains and shame of addiction well. Whether they say it or not, they feel their addiction has trapped them. They are happy for me, however, albeit shocked. I told them how I did it, about different books and methods and SR. That is all I can do. If they ever come to me and say they are quitting, I will be their biggest supporter.
In the meantime, we live seperate lives. I cannot jeopardize my sobriety by hangin with them around lots of drinking. And though they may not articulate this, hangin around me and not drinking jeopardizes their alcoholism.
My other friends & family who are social drinkers are totally with me. With them, there are lots of things to do together besides drink. And we do them!