Florence,
I just want to second what TeM noted about the financial side. I've not posted too much about that aspect of my journey - but it is a huge part of it. It's a real mess. There were limited options to deal with it - so I did what I had to do. I focused only on the very top priorities. I've taken necessary steps and it's not as bad as I thought, particularly if you take it one day at a time and appreciate small blessings. Future-tripping is hard to avoid when it comes to providing for your family, I know. There will be periods in the transition that are "undesirable" but hopefully those will be temporary -just a bridge to a more desirable situation.
It's too bad that the parents on either side can't see the reality before them. Here's hoping they start to get it - for everyone's sake.
MamaKit