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So I have an order that XABF cannot contact me or see me (DVP). It was going very well up until recently.

On August 12 I got a call from his mother, she said that he had asked her to call to ask me if I would ever talk to him again. Instead of answering I told his mother that it was illegal for him to send messages though her. She apologized, stating that he had bugged her to death (manipulated her) until she said she would call.

Then on August 26, he got way more creative. He started sending texts from a prepaid cell. They started out very criptic "Someone loves u very much. Do u know that?"

2 or 3 a day. Its funny how you can look at a text and know whether someone is drunk or not. When I completely ignored them, thinking that they might just go away and thinking it would be very hard to prove it was him, they escalated

"R U F***ing Carolyn's biker dudes? I know you have a new boyfriend"

So yesterday his mom called again, asking me if I knew the passwords for his email account, because he wanted to accuse me of hacking it. I told her that if he though I was hacking it, he should change the password, and that he should leave me alone.

So today, when they started, I had enough. I called the Domestic Violence worker and asked what I should do, she transferred me to the deputy who handled it initially. He asked that I print all of the texts and make a statement. He also asked me to send a text that said "who is this" and then another to see if he would admit it was him.

He never outright admitted it was him, but he did type enough to where at least I am 100% sure it was him.

The deputy tells me it is a AT&T go phone. He is able to make an inquiry. If J. paid by credit card, he is busted. If he is going to the store to buy refill cards, it's totally harder to track. I'm not really sure how this will end. He says that depending on whether or not J's mother will cooberate her story that he asked her to call, he could be charged with that. I printed the text that started with "J. wanted me to call you and ask"

I'm afraid if they can't prove anything it will only serve to make him angrier. Right now he is living at his mom's house (very small town, nothing to do, the only people who might hang out are at the bar or are druggies or alcoholics too. His mother tells me he is drinking every day. She is staying with her daughter in another state so he has his mother's home to his self (he is likely destroying it, but not my problem). He still earns unemployment ($400 per week by lying to the state of north carolina to say he is a resident there and looking for a job).

As for me, I am loving my new teaching job, and I am going to school full time to get my Master's in Reading. I have been out on a couple of dates but am being much pickier this round (guy who lives in his van didn't get a second go). My daughter is thriving. Our new home is lovely. I just wish I could get this dark cloud and feeling of impending doom lifted off of me for good.

It has been a year and a half since I left, and only a couple of months since I had to get the restraining order.

He has already spend 24 hours in jail for violating the order the first time. He also got a fine and a 10 day suspended sentence. That means that if they charge him with contact, he will automatically have to go to jail for 10 days.

Do you think I did good by reporting this, or should I have just kept ignoring?