No Contact for me was enforced by a protection order. It meant NO CONTACT with me or he would find himself in jail! My AH has been communicating with our boys via phone and skype and will see them again soon for the first time in 3 months.
Soon, I anticipate that he and I will have email communication regarding the children. I have learned from this forum what I will engage in and what I will not. Thank you SR!
These three months, as difficult as they have been, have allowed me to make room in my own head for me. My every waking thought is not somehow about him and how he is behaving. It's not 100% dedicated to me but the balance is in my favor and I have enough "me" braincells to know when I'm giving him too much thought.
I'm not sure I would have been able to do it without the court order. Regardless of how it was arrived at, NC has allowed me to begin the healing and move forward. I'm not being dragged down anymore.