Old 09-18-2012, 09:47 AM
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Thumper
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No contact for me meant email communication only and I would only send information that was child related. I only responded to direct and legitimate questions about the kids. I did not respond to statements and I did not respond to anything else (and there was a lot to not respond to.)

I did see him during child exchanges but I would only exchange pleasantries (like weather) and if he said anything else I turned my back - literally, and left as soon as I could.

I learned that about a month after he left. It was circular and destructive and pointless.

No contact allowed me to move my focus from him and his perceptions to me. I was able to let go and get off the dance floor. When I engaged with him I felt that I was giving up my power by stepping off the dance floor. When I quit engaging I was able to see just how empowering it was to step off that floor. I was free. I could breath. The fog was clearing.
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