I've haven't been on here alot lately. But tonight I was reading thru some post and I saw a couple of post that really stuck out to me.
A couple of post included the word's: Go No Contact
1st Month of my recovery. I heard that too from others. I thought they were nuts. How could I do that. They dont understand what Im going thru and of course, my story was different! Sometimes, it made me mad and sometimes, it made me cry and sometimes it just really choked my chain!!
I think when I first started Alanon, if someone would of really explained it to me, what it really meant and what it really was going to do for me. MAYBE I would of listened. (doubt it-hard headed) But I did try as hard as I could, because that's what everyone suggested that I do. Even though, I sometimes had a cloudy vision of what they were trying to tell me.
It's not alway's easy to go no contact. Sometimes it's just not what we want or need. Let alone fully understand. Each circumstance's, Each person, Each personality is different....But we all have one thing in common: ALCOHOLISM
Almost 2 year's later in my recovery: For me, I believe, No Contact, takes time depending on where you/yourself are at mentally. If I could go back and turn the clock - I would of had no contact the very 1st day. Like, if I knew then what I know now...Umm - Okay, you know the old story....
My XAH moved away. I didnt have to see him everyday.
So my story is different than (Some of you).
I did get the 100 nasty phone calls/text everyday, like (Some of you).
L@@KING Back - Those call's drove me more crazy. Kept me in daily chaos.
Kept my heading spinning. I actually lost sleep over them. HA! and more!!!
WTH??? Was I thinking????.........He was drunk and I was sober
Why did I continue having contact with him?.....
*Wink*
This past month, it's been almost 2 year's since I've seen him.
He showed up on my front door. 8 month's sober
Yes, he is sober - but NOT following his step's -
DRY DRUNK..Sober but still all of the same nasty behavior
NOW, that I've had peace in my life, no chaos, yes, crap still rolls somedays
and still have mountains to climb, but it's peaceful
Once you have a time away from the chaos, even if it's for one week or 2 year's
The picture get's more clear, on how crazy alcoholism really is.
And it made me realize, just how crazy I had become.
My mind ran hard and fast, all mixed up, when I was dealing with him
when he was home and even when he left me.
It was like trying to hang onto a hurricane...
At the end of it, I was exhausted and he was still drinking
What did I gain?...Weight loss was one, dark circles, a messed up head!
So, seeing him sober (I give him a A+)
but the rest of it.....Umm, I think I will pass the plate of BS
The phone calls/text - Are your's if anyone want's them!!!
I wont even charge you a $1.00 for them...THEY ARE FREE
NO CONTACT ......And having "BALANCE" in my thought's, timing, emotions,
feelings and heart..is knowing that I'm worth more than that, even if it means
living by myself...
It took me 2 year's - I now have closure - And I now have NO CONTACT!!!
Slow learner, Just call me turtle!
How do you describe "NO CONTACT" ?
What has it done for you?
How long did it take you to realize, how important it really is?