Divorce is definitely never a 100% decision. I remember my "D-Day" as one of mixed emotions. My mother was bouncing down the courthouse steps while I tried to fight off tears. There are things I still love about my ex-husband, but there was too much bad to outweigh the good. Thankfully he wasn't an A and we're still friends, able to co-parent our two children. Marriage counseling is something that both people need to be willing to enter, going in with the intention of finding out if their marriage can be saved (if they want it). It sounds more like both of you are just looking for someone to tell the other that they're wrong, so you have an excuse to say, "I'm right! I'm right! I'm right!" That's not healthy at all, and it certainly isn't doing your son any favors to see you treating each other that way (don't think he doesn't notice).