finding the right counselor can be time consuming, I tried 4 and got 4 that didn't work. Then I went with a friend to their counselor that was fantastic, and asked myself how come I couldn't find such a great counselor when I had been looking for one?
Word of mouth if you know someone intelligent enough that you trust, if you can't find that recommendation, then I would search the choices for one that specializes in BOTH relationships and addiction. There are some out there, good luck