You are so right about putting it into a nurse's perspective Becky!! Makes so much sense when you look at it that way. He always told me he thought I would leave him when I got done with school and got a good job and that keeps replaying in my head but really I have given him so many chances and he never gave me a reason to want him to stay! He just kept taking and never gave any back. I have changed so much I don't put up with the BS anymore but he hasn't changed a bit. As you can see it was the same thing happening just a different year and that was about the only thing consistent about him. I'm just focusing on all the bad times right now to get my mind off the good times we had. I lost almost all my friends because he was so controlling and never trusted me it wasn't even worth going out if he was going to accuse me of cheating on him every time. Plus I have a huge passion for music bc I'm a musician... Symphonies, concerts, etc and I feel like he just ripped that from me bc he would never attend one with me even though I always went to the casino with him (I hate gambling). I take the NCLEX tomorrow and after that everything will fall into place. He completely stole my life from me and I'm going to get it back!