AH - that mean's Alcoholic husband
Why do you expect someone that is intoxicated to be normal?
Would you act normal if you were drunk? - I know I wouldn't
Sound's like it's time for you to put your foot down
and make some personal boundaries to protect yourself (emotionally)
That's not good for your kid's either. My dog's were a nervous wreck
when I lived like that. They could feel my sadness.
Your not going to change him, no matter how much you Beetch and complain
All you can do, is follow your step's - someday's it really suck's - but you
have to do it, or nothing change's in your life
Time to take care of you!
I know it's not easy, knowing he is out doing those thing's. But there's nothing
you can do. And even if he not drinking tomorrow, remember, his brain and his
body is still toxic with alcohol. His brain (mentally) has a very warped way of thinking.
And it will be that way, until "HE" decide's to get help and get sober.
So - Either you sit there and let him add more "toxic" in your life
or
You either stop it now, and start working on you....
Alcoholics drink more and more....The process get's worse. The pain get's worse
The stories get worse. The finance's get's worse and so and so on....BLAH!!!
Get a lawyer, for legal advice. You have to protect you and the kid's.
Especially, your finance's. You have kid's to feed....
Because....Like me...I didn't listen to people on here
and in my class. They all advised me that he would drink the money away.
I was like: "Oh, my husband wouldnt do that"
When I left for a week. I came home and he had drank our checkbook
down to $1.57
It wasn't my husband that drank all of our money away. It was the alcoholic husband
that I was married to. Almost like 2 different people!!
My XAH has been sober for 8 months now. Has been to 2 rehabs and many AA meetings
And he still doesnt get what he has done to me or the kids
Give it up sister - Work on you and get your house in order
Sounds like he is not ready to get sober.
You have to learn to love yourself first, heal, find peace, be a good mom
without someone who is drunk....
That's like trying to feed a tiger with your hand...LET SOMEONE ELSE DO IT
You are worth more than that...And your not a tiger tamer......
Where is he getting all of the money to do that stuff? Motel, Booze?? is not cheap!
Isn't that like "robbing" money from you and your kids?
It could be money that would buy a new pair of shoe's for your kid's!
or more money for your mini vacation
Time to start, thinking about how he is robbing you and your kid's
Get alittle fire under your dress. Stand up for you and the kid's!!