Welcome to Sober Recovery. I am sorry for what brought you here but am happy that you found us!
There is lots and lots of information in the 'stickys' at the top of this forum, and of course lots of info in all the posts to the different threads also. Please read around the site.
We/I know that this is not easy for you, however you said:
I've told her my boundary is that I will not keep paying money if she is cheating the rules, not going to counseling, and not holding down a job.
She knows your boundary. Since she feels as if she will have a boyfriend when she goes to the new Sober Living, I would suggest that you simply say:
"You know my boundaries, therefore I suggest you get a job as you will have to pay for this Sober Living facility."
I know that will be hard, but she has already broken your boundary, and we all know that our boundary's are part of our survival, not their's. She is an adult, now is the time where she starts to 'feel' the consequences of her actions.
Please keep posting and let us know how you are doing as we do care very much.
Love and hugs,