There came a point in my marriage when I realized that although we started out with the same goals, dreams, values, and plans, somewhere along the way, we ended up going in different directions. At the same time, I realized that, drinking or not, he just didn't want the same things in life I wanted. Not only that, he wasn't interested in changing or conforming to my ideals.
While it certainly wasn't easy, I had to face the reality that the man I was married to was not the man I thought I was married to. And, for a while, I thought I would just have to accept that and try to go on existing for the rest of my days. Thankfully, this site showed me that I had choices, even though I didn't like them.
You have choices, too, Liz. Even though you may not like them......
L