Welcome Toby
I think pretty much everyone who asks 'can I do this' has already tried and already, deep down, knows the answer - there's no secret way, no trick to 'learn' control...either you have it...or you don't.
For those of us who don't, admitting and accepting that might feel like an ending now...but it's really not...
it's a beginning...of something pretty special
Good to have you join the community
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