Hi silly,
Actually, when I stopped going to 12 step meetings my husband was relieved and my family couldn't have cared less. They all wanted me healthy first and foremost.
Of course there's a lot of misinformation out there which leads some people to think that there is only one "right" way to recover. It's not unusual to run into that, but I'm convinced that the solution isn't defensiveness: the solution is courage and most of all, success.