The way i see it is that the addiction is an over indulged 3 year old child who's had his or her own way for the last 15 years ..
I am the responcible adult and to help the child i have to give firm and consitent boundaries, that no means no and there is no argument or furthur discussion to be had . This is what i mean sometimes when i say i had to get over my own ego , to learn self control .
Resentment, anger and frustration are all quite toxic emotions and i find a way of coping with the help of philosophy from several sources such as nitzche, bhuddah and markus auralleus as ways of reducing and humbling the "it's not fair, why me " of my prideful ego, to learn how to deal with the emotions caused by my newfound self control.
Bestwishes, M