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Old 08-22-2012, 06:41 PM
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Originally Posted by SettingSunset View Post
When one says I don't want to live with you if you are drinking, that person needs to have the ability to 'move out' or get 'him/her' out. If that is not the case...then saying that doesn't mean anything.
This is the absolute key to boundaries. If you have a boundary that you won't live with X, but you are unwilling to do (for yourself) what it takes to get X out of your life, then your boundary is nothing more than an attempt at manipulation. (I know because that is what I did for a long time.)

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