I hope it works out for you. I think most of us have been a negitive attitude about seeing a real change because most of us have been burned over and over.....I have gotten my hopes up so many times only to return to the same ol ....!! I think my XABF was willing to make the change everytime bc it got so bad he had no choice but as soon as things were looking up and confidence returned then back to the crap! I truly hope for you things will be different! I also know that it does happen! But I understand how you feel bc I was there many times....seeing the person I loved but never understood how I overlooked the cheating! However, I did it many times but in the end for me it was only more of the same and the pain grew worse bc I invested more! Best wishes to you that she will change and remained a changed women.