another example which I have done with a person who was always trying to "boss" me was to smile very sweetly and tell them "You have so many ideas of what I need to do--do me a favor and put your ideas on 3X5 cards, and I will look them over at my leisure.
O.K.---a little bit of sarcasm--but when said in a sweet voice, and, with bit of humor--they really get the point! Nobody has submitted any cards--as of yet.
another technique that is a little more confrontational (confrontation is o.k. when warented), is to turn the alanon saying around on them---"What you think I should do is none of my business"-- said with a sympathetic smile, of course
dandylion
helpful hint: You can say almost anything if you say it in the right way!