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Old 08-22-2012, 09:34 AM
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Tuffgirl
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Liz, Mike and LTD are correct. And by trying to communicate your boundaries to an active alcoholic is like trying to ask a tree to stop dropping fall leaves on your back porch.

Have you read any of the books recommended here? Under the Influence? Another one is "Drinking: A Love Story" by Caroline Knapp. It's a personal biography but really sheds light into the minds of addicts.

I would also recommend posting this on the alcoholics forum. They will gladly tell you how they dealt with things like this and how it sounds being filtered through their distorted thinking while active in their addictions. And lastly, read the post http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-behavior.html and the link to the article.

I know you are trying to salvage your marriage and subsequently your life here, but your efforts are wasted on someone who is in the midst of an addiction. He is just not emotionally available to have these normal, grown up conversations about your marriage.
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