BobbyJ, you've been missed! So glad you came back with an update. What a roller-coaster of a ride, eh?
I got off of mine, too. Divorce was final August 7th. Some things just never changed, and one day it dawned on me that, like you, this was a choice I was making to allow toxic people in my life. I could choose not to as easily as I could choose to allow it. So I made a choice. It's been a sad handful of months of no contact but each day gets a little brighter.
Take good care, and don't be a stranger!
~T