It is wonderful news that your husband has 6 months of recovery under his belt! It is only the very beginning of a long road, but it's a start. I think it boils down to what you are willing to accept. For me, abuse is a drop-dead deal breaker.
I think I, too, would feel frustrated if I were never allowed to tell him exactly how I felt about all the things he had done to me. I can't imagine never being able to address this with him simply because I was afraid of jeopardizing his sobriety. Remember, you are never the cause for his drinking.
Perhaps with the help of a good marriage counselor, you should discuss this with him in terms of how all of it made your feel. "When you X, I felt Y(anger, hurt, unloved, demoralized, etc.)" I think you deserve to have that conversation.
Many hugs, HG