yea, I relate, WTH!! Ok, my 25 year wedding anniversary is in two weeks, my wife went to Az to visit her mom for a few weeks, last week I get a TEXT she wants a separation and is not comimng back!!! Simply crushing. I posted about this and got lots of good and kind words here. She's been gone a month today. I've been thru hell for two years with all her lying and tellling me she doesn't love. I've worked SO hard to get her back, even when she was here. Do I really need some one who doesn't love me around, someone who can treat ne with complete indifference?? The "i don't care" attitude is heart breaking EVERYDAY. Well, OK, now she's gone. I'm now going to 3 Alanon mtgs a week now. I was going to one. I hurt. BUT, I know I will recover and eventually get ok. Meetings, sponser and this forum are caring me thru this today.