To myself, to others, to my wife...
...and then Alanon taught me to tell the truth. It took awhile to change the habits, but change they did.
AW's not too happy because I'm compulsively honest now. That said, just because somebody asks a question doesn't mean I'm going to answer it. It just means that if I do answer, I'll tell the truth as I see it. Otherwise I'll just say, "with all due respect that's not my question to answer," or I may say, "with all due respect, it's none of my/your business."
Take care,
Cyranoak