I can't add any better advice than what you've gotten but I fully agree with everything Tuffgirl has advised in all of her posts. You are NONE of the things he made you verbalize, but you have to find a way to empower yourself. Do it for your girls, do it WITH your girls.... they will become stronger watching you become stronger.
You & your girls are in my daily prayers WTBH, I hope this monster suffers greatly for all of the damage he is inflicting on you.