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Old 08-11-2012, 09:38 PM
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Originally Posted by caligirl71 View Post
I guess I just feel it would be easier to move on if I didn't care so much about him. I just kept thinking that he would wake up and realize what he was missing out on but I need to stop dreaming....
At my Al-Anon meeting the other night the topic was the three As
Awareness
Acceptance
Action

I had to be aware before other things could change. The majority of that change had to come from me. I could not make that change without awareness.

I also had this idea that recovery meant I knew this stuff, (for example knew how to detach with love) or separate for it to look good or work. I am realizing now that those were the lessons I needed to learn by experiencing what I did. That does not make it easier, or less emotional but it does give me a chance to not beat myself up.

Reality is the ground for liberation. Ticht Naht Hanh This really helped me when I was feeling like you did. Liberation of course meaning whatever you personally want it to mean, not necessarily liberation from yourself.
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