My Catholic upbringing was interspersed with a lot of the family disease of alcoholism. As a result I can't always separate out what is the disease and what is Catholic.
I say that because I have come to learn that my experience with this is not unique.
I often at this time can't quite get exactly how I am feeling, but can admit that is feels "Catholic." Usually when I am feeling guilty, dependent or feeling like I can't sort out what is mine and what is someone else's this feeling will arise.
So I don't have any answers for you but wonder if it might be more intertwined than you realize.
Please let us know what you work out.