Originally Posted by MadeOfGlass

I completely understand the confusion you have with the person raised religious yet has this sneaky desire issue.
I asked exah about this and his porn addiction. He said the lure was that it was "naughty".

Yes maybe that is why my husband choses to go to the strip clubs when he is using? Would make sense to me...acting out, throwing everything to the wind, being bad and naughty and escaping reality. He also said it's the "go to" place to actually get drugs.

Well that lure is a little twisted and immature...but I tend to focus on how it lacks respect for women, objectifies, etc.

Right there with you on that. My husband is in his 40's but sometimes his thinking is very old school when it comes to women. He is extremely immature. He started his love affair with booze around 12 or 13 and drugs around 14 or 15. I think that starting out so early in life sometimes stunts the emotionally maturity in people.

it's so ironic, he can't see sex on the tv with you in the room, but he can run off to the strip clubs...gotta go grab some guilt!

LOL!!! You are awesome!! Yes, funny right?? He can be "big man" in the strip club throwing away wads of money and living the high life but he can't watch something sexual on TV with his wife in the room. Skewed. I think he has a ton of shame and guilt - actually I KNOW he does. I don't ever comment on stuff like that either. I drop it. There's nothing healthy about me re-hashing stuff with him - actually it just makes matters worse. That's something he needs to discuss with his sponsor.

Is he Catholic? They seem to have much greater guilt installed than other sects.

VERY CATHOLIC. He is actually a Eucaristic Minister *snickers* Sorry I had to laugh. His mother is borderline religiousity. She only watches the catholic TV station and she has followed Mother Angelica (I think that's her name) on pilgrimages. I was raised Catholic as well but I consider myself to be more spiritual than religious. We both have been going back to church on Sunday. i don't mind it but I don't feel the need to HAVE to be there. I go for him. He gets a lot out of it. One of our first dates he took me to church and then dinner. I am sitting here typing and laughing. It's quite comical when I think about it all. For him to be the catholic boy who loves drinking, drugging and strip clubs. It's like one extreme to the other. Maybe growing up in a household like that made him run screaming for some sort of release? Meh, I don't know