Originally Posted by
sparklingeyes 
My therapist advised me to write and rewrite "I am good enough" since that is a core issue I have. My friend pointed out how affectionate I am with my daughter so I don't understand what exactly I am doing wrong.
You have to open up the lines of communication. Ask her what she is upset with you about, and don't talk, don't think about your response while she is talking, but simply listen and REALLY HEAR HER. Let her vent and cry and yell at you, and take it sitting down without interrupting her.
Then, after she is fully vented, have a two-way discussion on each thing she brings up.
Most of the time when a child is alienating a parent, it is because they feel they are not listened to.
Also make her a priority. I have a suspicion that you have placed the alcoholic bf above her in your priority list...maybe I am wrong, but remember who is more important--she is.